Ho circa le tue stesse impostazioni...
Riavvio il router.. carica il tutto.
Riesco a collegarmi dopo pochi secondi non dialoga più col server
962 1 root R 12156 40% 98% amuled -f
total used free shared buffers
Mem: 30044 29072 972 0 3096
Swap: 120448 0 120448
Total: 150492 29072 121420
Non c'è modo di ricollegarsi se non riavviando il router 
e poi siamo da capo
Temo tu non abbia applicato le patch giuste

. Vedi i miei post a riguardo.
Comunque sia ecco il mio amule.conf:
[eMule]
AppVersion=aMule 2.1.3
Nick=http://www.aMule.org
QueueSizePref=50
MaxUpload=10
MaxDownload=30
SlotAllocation=2
Port=4662
UDPPort=4672
UDPDisable=0
Autoconnect=1
MaxSourcesPerFile=300
MaxConnections=500
MaxConnectionsPerFiveSeconds=20
RemoveDeadServer=1
DeadServerRetry=9
ServerKeepAliveTimeout=0
Reconnect=1
Scoresystem=1
Serverlist=1
AddServersFromServer=0
AddServersFromClient=1
SafeServerConnect=0
AutoConnectStaticOnly=0
SmartIdCheck=1
ConnectToKad=1
ConnectToED2K=1
TempDir=/mnt/usbdrive/.aMule/Temp
IncomingDir=/mnt/usbdrive/.aMule/Incoming
ICH=1
AICHTrust=0
CheckDiskspace=1
MinFreeDiskSpace=1
AddNewFilesPaused=0
PreviewPrio=0
ManualHighPrio=0
FullChunkTransfers=1
StartNextFile=0
StartNextFileSameCat=0
FileBufferSizePref=16
DAPPref=1
UAPPref=1
OSDirectory=/mnt/usbdrive/.aMule/
OnlineSignature=0
OnlineSignatureUpdate=5
EnableTrayIcon=0
MinToTray=0
ConfirmExit=0
StartupMinimized=0
3DDepth=10
ToolTipDelay=1
ShowOverhead=0
ShowInfoOnCatTabs=0
ShowRatesOnTitle=0
VerticalToolbar=0
VideoPlayer=
VideoPreviewBackupped=1
StatGraphsInterval=3
statsInterval=30
DownloadCapacity=3
UploadCapacity=3
StatsAverageMinutes=5
VariousStatisticsMaxValue=100
SeeShare=2
FilterLanIPs=1
IPFilterAutoLoad=1
IPFilterURL=
FilterLevel=127
FilterMessages=0
FilterAllMessages=0
MessagesFromFriendsOnly=0
MessageFromValidSourcesOnly=1
FilterWordMessages=0
MessageFilter=
ShareHiddenFiles=0
AutoSortDownloads=0
NewVersionCheck=0
ExecOnCompletion=0
ExecOnCompletionCommand=sh -c '~/example.sh "%FILE" %HASH'
Language=
SplitterbarPosition=75
YourHostname=
DateTimeFormat=%A, %x, %X
IndicateRatings=1
AllcatType=0
ShowAllNotCats=0
DisableKnownClientList=0
DisableQueueList=0
MaxMessageSessions=50
PermissionsFiles=416
PermissionsDirs=488
Address=
SmartIdState=1
[FakeCheck]
Browser=0
BrowserTab=1
CustomBrowser=
[Proxy]
ProxyEnableProxy=0
ProxyType=0
ProxyName=
ProxyPort=1080
ProxyEnablePassword=0
ProxyUser=
ProxyPassword=
[WebServer]
Enabled=0
Password=********************************
PasswordLow=
Port=4711
UseGzip=1
UseLowRightsUser=0
PageRefreshTime=120
Template=php-default
[ExternalConnect]
AcceptExternalConnections=1
ECAddress=
ECPort=4712
ECPassword=********************************
ShowProgressBar=1
ShowPercent=0
UseSrcSeeds=0
UseSecIdent=1
IpFilterOn=1
[Razor_Preferences]
FastED2KLinksHandler=1
FullQueueSources=0
HighQueueRankingSources=0
HighQueueRanking=1200
AutoDropTimer=240
NoNeededSourcesHandling=1
[SkinGUIOptions]
UseSkinFile=0
SkinFile=
[Statistics]
MaxClientVersions=0
TotalDownloadedBytes=91778637865
TotalUploadedBytes=151571175388PS
Nota che ho anche sorgenti e connessioni limitate a questi valori:
MaxSourcesPerFile=300
MaxConnections=500
PS2
Nota anche quanto ha lavorato il mio piccolo mulo

TotalDownloadedBytes=91778637865
TotalUploadedBytes=151571175388
91 giga in download e 151 in upload.